Wednesday, October 03, 2007

Feeding the hungry heart...

"Until the hunger of the heart is named and touched, no amount of advice - no matter how medically correct - will enable someone to stop eating destructively. If someone is using food to slowly kill herself, giving her an exercise-and-food plan will not turn her around. We need to recognize that she wants to die; we need to see her eating as a way of expressing what she doesn't know what to say another way. We need to touch the ground of the pain, dissolve its roots."

"After developing an eating problem, we then focus on dieting, food plans, elaborate schemes for losing weight and gaining the perfect body, a sense of meaning and a feeling of accomplishment. But no system built on deprivation, shame, punishment, guilt and fear will ever work - and this includes diets - because it does not recognize the fundamental reasons behind emotional eating."

"If we want to solve our obsession with food and body size, we need to look at the longings, the desperation, the beliefs and the images from which it grows."

"I began to see that I couldn't hate my body and appreciate myself, that one was a reflection of the other. Eating was not the problem. By treating as it were- by dieting, depriving myself, hating my body, I was treating symptoms rather than their cause."

"Being fat, it seemed, was fulfilling certain needs, and unless I dealt with those needs, I could lose weight many times and regain it just as often to continue meeting those needs. I learned that I couldn't take away compulsive eating unless I replaced it with understanding and acceptance."

"[Binging] is a descent into a world where every restriction you have placed on yourself is cut loose....At its core is a feeling of deprivation, scarcity, and a feeling you can never get enough. "

"Binges do not signify a lack of willpower or inability to care for yourself. On the contrary, binges can be a urgent attempt to care for yourself when you feel uncared for. They are the voice of survival."

"Binges are signals that you are not giving yourself what you need....They are your last stand against deprivation."

"Binges are the mark of the self that says, 'I am tired of feeling deprived, of being told I am wrong, that I am bad. I am tired of constant restrictions. Go to hell'......"

"When it's over, the pain that caused you to binge is still there."

"When you believe your hunger is related to something as controllable as the shape of your body, you don't have to undergo the sometimes long and often painful questioning of other things about yourself. You don't have to come face to face with empty dreams or the lack of fulfillment you experience in your work and/or relationships. You can decide your troubles are weight related and you continue to eat compulsively."

"Never attaining permanent status as a thin person, you continue to strive for a goal you will never achieve because you are standing in your own way. Reaching that goal would mean facing the unsettling conclusion that being thin had little to do with being happy and that all that effort did not bring you any closer to a sense of inner peace."

" Being thin is a 'thing'. Has any 'thing' ever brought you truly long lasting happiness? If being thin, for you, is the goal on which you pin your well-being, than you are probably hungry for something less tangible. You are probably depriving yourself in other areas of your life."

"Every time you 'use' food, you leave yourself. You walk out the door and leave yourself starving. At least you have an avenue into your inner world. Your eating can become a sign that you need something-even though you don't know what it is or how to get it. Rather than viewing it as a seizure that overtakes you and propels you toward food, you can use it as a barometer between you and your non-physical hunger."

"You can consider yourself fortunate to be a getting a message that is so easy to read."

- Geneen Roth

"When you abuse yourself, in a sense you abuse the world. If you learn to love yourself, you become an expert in self-preservation and your own healing. You begin to bloom and the world blooms around you."

- Unknown

1 comment:


thanks 4 the excepts food for thought.

love u