Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Love it up...

Tomorrow is Valentine's Day. I've always been a big fan of the day. Who doesn't love chocolate and celebrating with people who matter? Even as a single girl, I tried to live it up. These days, I enjoy good quality time with the Observer. We usually go out for dinner somewhere nice and just hang out. We always have a good time.

Tomorrow I think the plan is to go to a fancy Italian restaurant, which should be fun. I'll be interested to see if the Observer enjoys the food. That guy knows real Italian cuisine better than anyone I know. He grew up with a master chef as a mother whose food tastes like it has been blessed by some culinary goddess.

I remember spending one Valentine's Day with one of my best friends. We went to a couple's dinner at Swiss Chalet and really enjoyed ourselves. I never really understand why single people take Valentine's Day as such an insult to the single life. It's just one day and it's about honoring people you love whether romantically or in a friendship sense. I think any day that we are encouraged to be sweet, generous and appreciative is a good thing.

My parents will celebrate their 33rd wedding anniversary tomorrow. Whenever people find out they got married on Valentine's Day, they always think it's very sweet. I do agree, but I don't think they selected this day for any particular reason other than they wanted to get married after my mom finished her nursing exams. Sometimes I ask my parents about their marriage. Nothing too personal, of course. I'm just looking for a little wisdom. My mom says no one is perfect and the good qualities of your partner must outweigh the bad, because you are the one that will have to live with them in the middle of the night. My dad says that my mom is 100% good and that is why he asked her to be his wife. My parents love each other. This I know for sure. I don't think you could spend 33 years with one person and not love them. Now that they have no children at home, their lives are mostly about each other, especially now that my mom is a little out of commission. My dad is the head of the house for now, and he is doing a wonderful job at holding down the fort. Housework and domestic duties aside, I am amazed at how attentive he is to my mom and her needs. I noticed one day that she shifted her position while she was lying on the couch. My dad was in the next room and heard her move. Within 10 seconds, he was by her side asking what was up. It was such a small gesture, but to me, it was so kind.

Over the years, I've learned a lot about relationships and love. I'm no expert, but there are some things that I know for sure.

These include:

* Meeting the love of your life won't magically change everything you wish was different about yourself and what is going on around you. All that will happen is that you will meet the love of your life and that is something to be grateful for.

*Loving someone means wanting them to be happy.

*It's impossible to change a man, so don't even try.

*It's more important to be kind then it is to be right.

*When two people spend a lot of time together, they are bound to annoy each other now and then.

*It's okay to say that you are wrong and apologize when you hurt someone.

*When we are sad, sometimes it's better to sit with someone we care about in silence than to sit alone.

*Love is not something that can be seen or heard; it can be felt through actions, time and shared experience.

*Life, with all its twists and turns, is better when we share it with a good soul.

Happy Valentine's Day!!!


1 comment:


great post with wise and sweet u